I have learned more from Tom Nelson than I can say. I first encountered Tom over 20 years ago as an 18-year-old college freshman looking for a home church. I walked into Christ Community and heard Tom teach the Bible. While I don’t remember the specific content of that sermon, two things stand out from that day. First, I thought, “This pastor is a little quirky.” (Sorry, Tom!) Second, I realized this man was preaching the Scriptures with conviction, clarity, thoughtfulness, and a laser focus on Jesus. I couldn’t wait to come back.
That first day at Christ Community, I never suspected what this church family would come to mean to me. After graduating from college, I had the joy of attending Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and then returning to Christ Community as a pastoral resident. I eventually joined the staff team to start the Downtown Campus and then the Brookside Campus, where I serve today.
Over these years of journeying with Tom, there are three vital lessons I have learned:
Lesson 1: “It’s not about trying harder; it’s about training better.”
So often we fall for the lie that becoming more like Jesus is simply a matter of gritting our teeth and trying harder. But this doesn’t work—at least not for long. Willpower, determination, and grit can only take you so far. At some point, usually when you’re tired, hungry, sad, or angry, those things will fail you. You’ll end up in your same old patterns and habits. True growth requires us to train better. You don’t become a faster runner simply by trying harder; you become a faster runner by deliberately training.
In Matthew 11:28-30 Jesus invites us to take his yoke and learn from him. He doesn’t just expect us to try harder on our own; he invites us to train better with him.
Lesson 2: “Work is about contribution before compensation.”
We tend to think about work exclusively or primarily as something we’re paid to do—the way we earn a living and pay the bills. While this is an important aspect of work, it is neither its foundation nor its fundamental purpose.
In the biblical storyline, work is first and foremost about contribution. Human beings are created in God’s image to steward and watch over his good world. We are created in the image of a God who is a worker. This understanding reframes what work is all about. If work is fundamentally about contribution, then everyone—young or old, in school or retired, in the best of health or profoundly disabled—can work and contribute.
The dignity and goodness of work aren’t limited to those aged 16 to 65 who earn a paycheck. Work is a gift. Work is an opportunity. Work is for everybody.
Lesson 3: “The goal in life is not to accomplish great things but to become the apprentice of a great person.”
I first heard Tom teach this when I was a sophomore in college, eager to make my mark on the world. I remember exactly where I was sitting when Tom said those words. It seemed like he was speaking directly to me.
That truth was both profoundly jarring and comforting. It exposed just how much ambition I had to accomplish something great, which was jarring. But I also felt a burden lift at that moment. No matter the scale or visibility of my accomplishments, my life could be a success if I devoted myself to becoming a disciple, a learner, an apprentice of Jesus.
I’ve returned to that truth over and over again, especially in moments that feel like setbacks or failures. This truth continues to recalibrate my ambitions and comfort my striving heart.
Conclusion
These three lessons continue to nurture my life and work. From that first quirky sermon to the profound wisdom I’ve gained over two decades, Tom’s influence has shaped not just my spiritual life, but my entire approach to work, personal growth, and purpose. Thanks, Tom!